Origin of Marriage Ceremonies


Marriage existed way before Christianity was ever dreamed up. Before Judaism was ever dreamed up. Before Zoroastrianism. Marriage was created by Pagans. It's not a Christian religious institution. WE perfected marriage. WE created marriage. So the Christians should not get a say in what is and is not permissible for our religious rites.

The concept of marriage predates Christianity and the other two forms of Abrahamic religions, Judaism and Islam which share a common origin and common values. Marriage is very ancient dating back beyond recorded history and was practiced by all people of many cultures, ethnicities and belief systems on all continents. 

The prevalence of the concept of marriage came to the forefront of culture when humankind evolved from hunter-gatherer to agriculture and pastoralism which occurred during the neolithic/agricultural revolution about 10,000 years ago. 

Originally "marriage" was a private, binding contract between clans (families) to form an alliance, thereby increasing the clan's chances for survival in war against rival clans. A "dowry" was given by each clan to "seal the deal". Marriage was contractual, considered a passing of "property" between clans as a symbol of intention to honor the agreement being made. The property took many forms: cattle, land, children, whatever was considered to be of great value at the time. In the United Kingdom, a requirement for a public announcement in a Christian parish (banns of marriage) was introduced by the Roman Catholic Church in 1215. This set the precedent for marriage as is recognized by the Christian community. 

The origins of marriage is NOT religious, nor does it have anything to do with the God of the Abrahamic religions. It was around way before organized religion which by Christian standards means it is PAGAN. Christians "borrowed" many pagan rites and rituals so Pagans would convert more readily and easily to Christianity.

Although lots of people are married in the Bible, there are no descriptions of any ceremonies. Adam and Eve are “married” simply by the fact that they are made for each other and they procreate. Jacob marries Leah by mistake, which happens not because of a disguised bride at a wedding ceremony, but because he consummates the marriage in the darkness of a tent. Jesus attends a wedding in Cana which consists of a family party, but no ceremony is described.

The only “ceremony” I can find in the Bible is Tobit 7:12-14 in which a father places the hand of his daughter in the hand of the husband, and then writes a contract.

The reason why there are no marriage ceremonies in the Bible is because marriage did not involve a ceremony. Marriage in the Bible simply consists of a man and woman, with the consent of the woman’s father or guardian, living together and attempting procreation.

No vows, no priest, no ritual, no prayer, no pronouncement, no license, no registration.

(Mark 10:9) Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.

Today, for a marriage to be “real” it must be legal; in other words, it must be recognized by the laws of the state and registered with the state.

Also, for many Christians, a marriage is not a “Christian marriage” unless it is officiated by a credentialed minister who makes a verbal pronouncement, preferably in the presence of the congregation.

But these are all recent innovations. For most of human history, marriage has simply been an agreement, recognized or arranged by the immediate families, for a man and woman to live together.

Marriage as a legal institution, and as a religious ceremony, began as a result of the Reformation.

Beginning in the Middle Ages, churches kept records of who was married to whom. But Luther viewed marriage as a “worldly matter,” and so he turned over the recording of marriages to the state.

Calvin believed that for a marriage to be valid it needed to be both recorded by the state and officiated by the church.

The Catholic Church did not require marriages to be officiated by a priest until 1563, and the Anglican Church did not get around to making this requirement until 1753.

So for the past five hundred years, there have been, in the European tradition, three kinds of marriage: legal, religious, and social. But social marriage, strictly speaking, is the most biblical.

Couples who chose to live together is not a sin in God's eyes, particularly those raising children could be treated as married even if they are not legally married or have not undergone any kind of religious ritual.

A sin is if you have multiple sex partners. Those men mentioned in the OT that had many wives it was their choice, not God's. What did Jesus say in Mark 10:2?

(Mark 10:2) 2 Some Pharisees came and tested him by asking, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?” 3 “What did Moses command you?” he replied. 4 They said, “Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce and send her away.” 5 “It was because your hearts were hard that Moses wrote you this law,” Jesus replied. 6 “But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.' 7 ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, 8 and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh. 9 Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

Indeed, during most of history, society, as well as the church, would have regarded such couples as married. Since a growing number of couples today are choosing to live together and raise children without a ceremony or legal license, it may be advantageous for the church to look more kindly and inclusively upon them.

In modern times in the United States, before a legal marriage ceremony can be performed, one must obtain a marriage license from government authorities. When a legally married couple seeks a divorce they must go before a judge to have the marriage annulled. Ministers and priests do not issue legally binding marriage licenses, nor do they have the legal authority to grant a divorce. The religious concept of marriage has nothing to do with the legal concept. Church and State are completely separate in the case of the institution of marriage.

Early marriage was borne of ancient societies' need to secure a safe environment in which to breed, handle the granting of property rights, and protect bloodlines. Ancient Hebrew law required a man to become the husband of a deceased brother's widow. 

But even in these early times, marriage was much about love and desire as it was social and economic stability. In its roundness, the engagement ring, a custom dating back to the Ancient Rome, is believed to represent eternity and everlasting union. It was once believed a vein or nerve ran directly from the 'ring' finger of the left hand to the heart. 

Many other modern day marriage traditions have their origins in these ancient times. Newly-weds are said to have aided fertility by drinking a brew made from honey during certain lunar phases and it is this tradition from which we derive the origins of the word 'honeymoon'.




Many of today’s popular wedding ceremony and reception traditions can be traced to ancient Pagan Roman, Greek and Egyptian Empires. http://jerryandgod.com/how-marriage-has-changed-over-centuries-and-1-corinthians-8-food-offered-to-idols/

5,000-year-old musical scene found on pottery in Israel may reflect sacred marriage ritual: http://www.ancient-origins.net/news-history-archaeology/5000-year-old-musical-scene-found-pottery-israel-020416


The Babylonian Marriage Market by Edwin Long ( Wikimedia Commons )

Do you stand on THE WORD of God?


If you are Born again from above, you should not be taking part in pagan traditions. Being Born again from above means to emty your soul from all previous false teachings and traditions of mankind. You need to start getting rid of mankind's ways, and become like a little child again in order to be able to receive wisdom from above. The Holy Spirit can not enter your soul if you hold on to traditions of the world. The water baptism symbolizes cleansing of the old, so the Holy Spirit will be able to fill that emty space, and you become a new man in Christ. Take Jesus parable for example.

(Matthew 9:16, 17) 16 No one puts a piece of unshrunk cloth on an old garment; for the patch pulls away from the garment, and the tear is made worse. 17 Nor do they put new wine into old wineskins, or else the wineskins break, the wine is spilled, and the wineskins are ruined. But they put new wine into new wineskins, and both are preserved.”

(Luke 5:37) And no man putteth new wine into old bottles; else the new wine will burst the bottles, and be spilled, and the bottles shall perish.

How does that come to be?

(Ephesians 2:8-9) states, "For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God—not by works, so that no one can boast." When one is saved, he/she has been born again from above, spiritually renewed, and is now a child of God by right of new birth. Trusting in Jesus Christ, the One who paid the penalty of sin when He died on the cross, is the means to be "born again." "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation: the old has gone, the new has come!" (2 Corinthians 5:17).

I have been condemned many times, and even blacklisted, by pastors and other Christians over this issue, and all for the fact that I want Christians to stand on the Word of God concerning marriage. Some of you might find that hard to believe, but I pray you would read over this and hear me out. 

What I'm going to talk about in this article, I have never personally heard this preached from the pulpit of a church building, and that makes sense after realizing that the "higher education" most preachers receive from their Bible colleges teaches them to adopt so much paganism and abominations into the church. This worldly way of thinking, the rudiments (first teachings) of the world, would be extraordinarily difficult, if not impossible, to remove from church buildings because most of them are so attached the traditions of men.

Beware lest any man spoil you through philosophy and vain deceit, after the tradition of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ.
-Colossians 2:8

Many Christians and heathens alike adhere to the traditions of men, rather than the Word of God. We tend to look for other men to rule over us and judge us, rather than have God rule over us and judge us.

It is better to trust in the LORD than to put confidence in man.
-Psalm 118:8 

Then Peter and the other apostles answered and said, We ought to obey God rather than men.
-Acts 5:29

Mankind tends to hold on to worldly traditions with great fervor, and the average church-goer is no exception. Jesus Christ directly scolded the traditions of men when they conflict with the Word of God.

But he answered and said unto them, Why do ye also transgress the commandment of God by your tradition?... Thus have ye made the commandment of God of none effect by your tradition. Ye hypocrites, well did Esaias prophesy of you, saying, This people draweth nigh unto me with their mouth, and honoureth me with their lips; but their heart is far from me. But in vain they do worship me, teaching for doctrines the commandments of men.
-Matthew 15:3-6

This is not in the Bible because God thought it would be something cute to read in a devotional calendar; it's a direct rebuke of men who hold the traditions of the world first and foremost in their hearts. The Lord Jesus Christ says it is vanity that they would feign themselves to worship Him just to impress other people, and if you begin to question their traditions in the church buildings, you're likely to be shunned out of them, just as my wife and I (and many others who have written our ministry) have experienced. 

My life is not a pure textbook example of how one should live, because I err and learn new things all the time where I must reshape my life to match the Word of God, but we all must be ever watchful to see if all our actions, and all our words, are pleasing to our Lord Jesus Christ. We shouldn't participate in traditions just because someone prestigious (like a pastor) told us we were supposed to.

And whatsoever we ask, we receive of him, because we keep his commandments, and do those things that are pleasing in his sight.
-1 John 3:22 

But as we were allowed of God to be put in trust with the gospel, even so we speak; not as pleasing men, but God, which trieth our hearts.
-1 Thessalonians 2:4

It's also important that we don't participate in traditions just because it's something we personally desire to do. We need to check the Word of God to see if it matches what we have been taught by books, movies, television shows, radio broadcasts, newspapers, classrooms, church buildings, and sometimes even our own parents.

But the natural man receiveth not the things of the Spirit of God: for they are foolishness unto him: neither can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned.
-1 Corinthians 2:14

Typically, a young girl is trained to seek after her glorious wedding day, binding her to her groom in a wedding ceremony. The impression is heavily weighed upon little girls that this is to be THE most important day of her life (because being born-again typically takes a back seat to tradition), and she must make sure to have a dress, a ring, a church to be married in, a pastor to marry them, marriage vows, special songs, sign the marriage license, and all the expensive tid-bits (limousines, cakes, hotels, etc) that go along with the traditions of a typical marriage ceremony, and little girls are trained to spend their waking days dreaming of this moment. 

Do we get so wrapped up in the busy preparations that we never stop to consider where all these traditions came from? Over the past decade, I asked a number of Christians where we get these marriage traditions from, and it was very strange that no one had an answer. Most of the people I talked to just responded with a question, "Well, isn't all this in the Bible somewhere?" The average Christian has no clue what they are really doing, nor why, but do these things anyway without any concerns about if it is pleasing to our Lord Jesus Christ, and worse still, the so-called "authority figures" in the church buildings never bother to teach or understand it themselves. 

If we are ignorant about marriage traditions, how do we know we are doing that which is pleasing in the sight of the Lord Jesus Christ?


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